Monthly Archives: April 2016
If you missed the first part of this story, I’ve decided to put it all together here on this page so I don’t have to keep going back through all of the different posts about this particular subject.
Now, before we begin, I feel that it is necessary for me to define something for you. The term is “talking.” When “talking” is put in quotes in my writings, it refers to the time that a guy and girl who like each other are texting or talking to each other and getting to know each other better but they have not decided to be “boyfriend and girlfriend” yet. When that decision is made, then they are dating. And just for my purposes: if he doesn’t ask, you aren’t actually dating and he isn’t your boyfriend. But that is really just my opinion and my definition of those words.
Now back to the story!
To give you a little reminder of where our story left off, camp is over and Brandon’s comment on my profile picture sparked a conversation that lasted through to the next day. He was the very first guy to continue the conversation the next day.
So what did I do once I realized that this boy who lived 3 1/2 hours away was going to keep talking to me? I got brave. And I got stupid. How, do you ask, was I so stupidly brave? I sent him this text message after telling him that I had a couple of questions for him… Get ready to cringe.
“Ok. There may not be any questions for you, but I think you need to know a few things. I’m sorry if it’s awkward or anything like that. First, let me say that I love talking to you. You are the sweetest guy I’ve met in a really long time. I’ve never been in a relationship before and honestly I think I’m scared of what could happen after I’m not just “talking” to a guy. I don’t think I want a long distance relationship, but I also know that if it’s God’s will then He will make it work out. I don’t know if you feel the same way, but I thought you should at least know some of that… Sorry if I’m rambling. And feel free to ask me any questions you have.”
Did you cringe? I did. Many times.
Now, what you need to realize is that this text message didn’t come a week or two after we started texting. No. This happened 2 days after we started texting. Two days. That, my friends, is how I got stupidly brave.
After I hit send, I started to panic. Those few minutes between the moment I hit send and I heard my phone go off again seemed like an eternity. I was freaking out because there are about a million different ways that Brandon could have responded. I’m just happy that it paid off and I just so happened to find that one guy who didn’t read that and say, “Whoa, you’re crazy. I’m just gonna go over here and pretend I didn’t read that and never respond back to you because you’ve lost your mind.” I found that one guy who responded like this:
“I’ve been thinking about it a lot and I don’t know if I want a long distance relationship either. But I’ve also never met someone like you. I’m not a person to force someone into something or hold grudges after the fact. I really don’t know. I want to tell you that the more I’ve talked to you I’ve started to like you more. I don’t know if you feel the same. But I just want to get that off my chest now.”
Needless to say, I literally breathed a sigh of relief and my jaw probably hit the floor. Honestly, I can’t remember much about that moment other than feeling nothing but anxiety while waiting and a massive wave of relief when I realized that he felt the same way. There weren’t really any eloquent words, but then again, how many 17 year olds in today’s society are found speaking with eloquence? Not many.
The thing is, my love story is not an eloquent one. It’s just the story of how a guy and a girl met at camp and decided to give each other a chance even though they lived 249 miles away.
There are much greater love stories out there. There are couples who have loved each other from much farther distances. There are certainly more eloquently spoken exchanges. The thing is, I like my story just the way it is. Just the way the Lord wrote it.
Next time, I’ll tell you what happened that October…